Hair is now yellow, orange, and black.

[sofiaviolet]

First round of bleach is done; it's been months since I redid my roots and I decided to move some of my purple around. So everything is hideous right now! I'll let it dry, run a comb through it, and see where needs more bleach. Then (depending on how late I want to stay up/how early I want to get up tomorrow) purple! And probably black to cover up a few sections of retired purple and any bleach oopsies.

Quizzical Pussy: Be little.

Think you’re better than one fucking person on this planet? Feel innately more correct, important, or that you occupy a moral high ground over any one group of people based on sex, age, weight, race, religion or lack thereof, sexual identity, orientation, or, hell, political affiliation? Bless your heart, all toddlers think they’re the center of the universe! You’re just a tiny bit behind, darling. Once you grow up a little you’ll let go of that and be a normal, healthy person.

It’s not being condescending. It’s being optimistic.

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Comments

[ex_pippin880]

I miss the smell of peroxide.

[sofiaviolet]

Heh, I mostly don't notice it. Not sure if that's because I'm always congested enough to tamp down my sense of smell, or because I use 20 vol developer.

[pinesandmaples]

So it's been a week, and I still have an issue with the tone Quizzical Pussy took at the very end of her entry. She says something REALLY condescending, in a specific "I'm talking down to you tone" with vocabulary flags ("Bless your heart...") then attempts to justify herself? I thought the point was really solid until she did that.

Also, ablism: "...and be a normal, healthy person." Is that my only option? Can I grow up to be a normal, battling chronic health issues person? Or an abnormal, healthy person? Or a wildly awesome and seriously beyond normal, healthy person?

Okay, I'm just being ranty.

[sofiaviolet]

Hey, ranty is fine. And correct.

Problematic shit aside, I find the idea of deliberately condescending to someone defending their privilege, in the same way that you have witnessed them condescending to people who challenge their privilege, really appealing. (In a way, it's good that I have been socialized into excessive niceness and conflict aversion - otherwise I would be vicious.)