sofiaviolet | There is no way I will be able to keep this up indefinitely. (Reply)

But hey, until I get lazy/short on time again, enjoy the linkspam (now with quotes!).

three_weeks_for_dw: ... but I don't wanna stop!

"Three weeks" is the amount of time before a post can be re-posted elsewhere. No reason the fest itself has to stop after three weeks, right?

I don't know if we have an official ruling on this, or a set end date, but I'd like to petition that we should be able to continue creating original content under the 3W4DW banner, and feeding the tag feed, for at least a while longer.

nanila: On being child-free

I've been thinking about the prospect of having children lately. My position on the subject has always been ambivalent. I'm not militantly child-free. That's just how my life has turned out. As I approach my mid-thirties, I wait for the mad drive to reproduce to kick it in. It's not happening. I know, in a detached, cerebral sort of way, that my biological clock is ticking. My fertility is dropping. But when I probe myself for feelings of urgency or anxiety about the subject, all I get is more gentle ambivalence.

Future Feminist Librarian-Activist:
are we talking "acting" or "passing"? (and why it matters)

If our knowledge of an actor's personal life (say, their sexual orientation) changes the way we -- as audience members -- interpret their performance, doesn't that shift the burden of responsibility back to us? If the onscreen chemistry between George Clooney (to use Setoodeh's example) and his leading ladies changes in our minds once we imagine he's gay (incidentally: why is bisexuality never a part of these conversations? hello??) then the problem is not with the actor (whom, until we believed he was not-straight seemed to have all the chemistry in the world) but in our heads.

un-mother's day: thoughts on a problematic holiday

And I've chosen to use the phrase "not-parents" instead of "childless" or "childfree" deliberately, because I am starting to believe that this narrative of parents vs. not-parents has little to do with children and everything to do with adults. With our cultural assumptions about what it means to be a responsible grown-up human being in the world. I believe it has everything to do with the way adults past a certain age (roughly post-college) are read culturally by those around them, for signs of parent or not-parent status, and judged by a set of cultural assumptions about what it means to lack (or forego) experience of the parenting role.

damned_colonial: Body image and geek gatherings... summary of results

So, a few summaries of the stats and some discussion points from the recent poll on body image and RL geek gatherings. I'm not a statistician, and DW polls are kinda limited in what you can find from them, so apologies in advance for this not being SRS SCIENCE.

marina: I swore I wouldn't update in the middle of class anymore

A cat just walked into my class, where we have a guest lecturer and the regular prof is sitting at the huge U shaped table, along with the students.

zorkian:
three weeks: history with Denise

peoppenheimer tagged me for Three Weeks for Dreamwidth, asking how Denise and I got started working together. Oh man, this is going way back...

Well then

I want to rant about the House season finale, but I have a feeling that would give too much credence to the preposterous notion that I might be part of this fandom thing. If I write about the plot, characters, and substance of my entertainment...

Well then I suppose that makes me like everybody else out there who argues about Who Shot First and other such quandaries.

Which means that fandom is just people, even people like me.

Odd, don't think I ever thought of it like that.

Racialicious: The Magnum Campaign and Ye Olde Black Male Penis Myth

The campaign is an great idea, considering the epidemic-level stats on HIV and Black cis and trans women and, as my friend sexologist Bianca Laureano said, “especially in the hip-hop community where ‘I like it raw’ is still prominent.”

I am wondering, though, about the racialized sexual stereotypes undergirding and getting perpetuating by this, namely that mainstay of black sex-negative imagery, the Big Black Penis.

And an older post from Cameryn Moore: Exploring the Big Black Cock