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Thursday, April 7th, 2011 08:25
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  • [personal profile] helens78: pondering... grainfest?
    Rumor has it that DW is going to be offering seed accounts again. For those of us who don't want one, can't afford $200 for one right now, or already have one, would there be any interest in some kind of parallel fundraising endeavor? We could use the term "grain" instead of "seed" (similar connotation, similar potentially-organic vegan term!), and make icons saying we're going after GRRRRRAAAAAIIIIINNNNSSSS, and... okay, really I just think the idea of dreamsheep zombies saying GRRRRRAAAAIIIINNNSSS is hysterical, but seriously, I think it could be a fun project.
  • What Privilege?: Non-survivor privilege and silence
    Those of us who’ve experienced abuse, rape and other violations don’t keep it quiet because we’re ashamed. Or because it’s intensely personal. The main reason we keep it quiet is because we know how you’ll treat us if we tell you. We know you have a culturally-granted privilege to remain ignorant. To not know, and therefore not to be responsible. Not to bother. Not to think about it.
  • And Dreamwidth's hosting provider will be performing maintenance over the weekend. They estimate 15 minutes of downtime for Dreamwidth during a 6-hour window.

    Date: 2011-04-07 16:33 (UTC)
    silverhare: drawing of a grey hare (ff - zoe [sigh])
    From: [personal profile] silverhare
    The main reason we keep it quiet is because we know how you’ll treat us if we tell you.
    *nods*

    Date: 2011-04-07 20:41 (UTC)
    silverhare: drawing of a grey hare (Default)
    From: [personal profile] silverhare
    I'm not sure about reactions, really. It is all swirled inamongst my mental breakdown and the dark early years of recovery, so mostly I can't remember telling people. I do remember the reaction of the first professional I told, though. She said "These things happen in relationships." And I didn't tell anyone else for ~three years.

    There are some people I'll never tell, partly because they know where [ex-fiancée] lives, and mostly because I don't want them to dismiss me like that first person did.

    I am not sure whether telling people makes me a survivor, or whether it means I am still a victim. Perhaps it's both. I have recently realised that I probably have PTSD (flashbacks, triggering words, panic attacks, emotional numbing, etc.) as a consequence. I struggle with how to deal with it.

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