picked a handful of violets in my name

Re: the last link, I feel the same way as you do about 'cis' filling a hole in my vocabulary I hadn't realized was there, and I think if someone's going to object to 'cis', they should suggest an alternate term that doesn't have transphobic connotations. I'm not aware of any terms that serve as well as 'cis' does, and I didn't read the entire linked discussion, but in the original comment complaining about 'cis', at least, I didn't see any alternate term offered.