picked a handful of violets in my name

sofiaviolet @ 2011-06-18T12:30:00

2011-06-18T16:31:30Z

helens78: I didn't really want to post this, but, well. I think I have to.

"PROMPT REQUESTS SWEET FRIENDSHIP OR G-RATED ROMANCE; FILL IS SET IN BDSM CLUB."

I get the whole "want one thing from a prompt, get something radically different" thing, and I understand that FYFF macros are frequently sarcastic or ironic. In this case, though, it's by no means the joke premise that I'm objecting to. It's the wording of the joke itself.

It's a joke, but it's one that, intentionally or no, highlights and reinforces a lot of stereotypes about BDSM -- none of them good. It's kink-shaming, and it's full of negative ideas I can't just let stand without saying something.

thingswithwings: some thoughts on manpain. um. many thoughts on manpain, actually.

I started writing some vidder's notes for that vid about manpain that I made, and they just got longer and longer, and more and more speculative and meta-y, and eventually I had to give up on making them notes and make them into their own separate post about manpain. So, for those who are interested in my opinion on manpain, here it is! For those who just want to watch the vid, I have neatly cordoned this meta off from the vid so that you don't have to care about it. It's almost unforgivably long, so do feel free to skip.

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linkspam

2011-01-15T17:06:08Z

ursamajor: United Airlines, I don't even *know*.

10. In Hyoun's words, because I was over at the Customer Service desk asking what the next steps were:
When I asked the desk agent what his name was and whether I could confirm that he had no information about holding the flight open for us and 4 other customers headed to Knoxville, he refused to identify himself and said "you don't need to know that". He then proceeded to shove me backwards and yelled "Fuck you" at me. (Check the camera pointed at Gate A6 at Dulles around 10 PM on 1/7 to watch this exchange.)
In other words, A UNITED GATE AGENT JUST ASSAULTED MY HUSBAND.

cleverthylacine: My thoughts on Sarah Palin's responsibility for the Giffords shooting.

I am not a politician. It is not actually MY JOB to get people to do things for me. If I know better than to ask for things on the internet that I don't actually want, if I know that I'm responsible for what happens when I ask for things on the internet, I don't think I am wrong to look at someone like Sarah Palin, who can get thousands of dollars from people she will never meet and was a vice-presidential candidate, and say, "Yes, you too are responsible for what happens when you ask for stuff on the internet."

tim: But I Really Didn't Mean It

Get it? When you say, "You shouldn't be angry with me about that, because I didn't mean any harm," you are demanding that someone else do your emotional labor because you're too privileged to have to do so. And that is generally worse than the original thing you said, because while the original thing may have been unthinking, the response is a not-so-thinly veiled attempt to leverage one's superior political position. That, my friends, is busted. And is it what you really intend to say?

ajnabieh: Linkspam, Tunisia Edition

littlebutfierce: hourou musuko

Last night we watched the first ep of Hourou Musuko, & people, it is wonderful. It's about trans kids in junior high, & I have been reliably informed that the manga isn't faily at all (isn't it nice to be able to watch things w/o holding your breath waiting for it?).

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link backlog

2011-01-05T00:46:56Z

Actual update soon, I hope.

( 8 links )

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sofiaviolet @ 2010-07-28T23:57:00

2010-07-29T04:04:40Z

OH GOD FINALLY I AM CAUGHT UP. I only had to go to skip=620 to do it.

Apologies for my epic failure at updating; I don't like to post when I'm behind on my reading. And speaking of my dreamroll... I am having to cut down on my subscriptions because I am overwhelmed. Bleh full-time job. I love my work, but I also love my internets. It is a sad time for me.

Important things:

Every year, shadesong does Blogathon for the Boston Area Rape Crisis Center. Her fundraising includes a charity auction; I have three pieces in the mix this year: Chains and Crippling Shoes, We Met in February, and The Awful Feeling of Knowing You Don't Remember No. Plus lots of other really lovely things that you should go and bid on!
I am going to Grand Forks! I'll be staying with C. and will also take the opportunity to hang out with Ellen and Greg, since I missed them in New Orleans this year. I am not sure what that will do to my internet time: on the one hand, C. and I will probably be very occupied with each other, but on the other hand, I can easily see us just chilling together with our laptops for a little while every day. At any rate, I will be out of Boston from August 14th to August 21st.
Speaking of C., we are now officially in a relationship! We put it on Facebook and everything. Current relationship status is "open" although there's an unspoken expectation that we'll be functionally monogamous at least until we can talk about it in person. There will be a more *ahem* detailed update later - hooray for filters.

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links

2010-05-21T07:17:12Z

I Refuse To Dignify This With A Title by reni_days (Panic, Brendon/Spencer, in which Brendon is a rock star and Spencer writes fic about him, and then they fall in love)

FEMINIST HULK MAKE TWITTER FUN

Boston Area Rape Crisis Center blog: How You Can Help

kink_bingo: kinky vid recs

DREAMWIDTH: WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY?

copperbadge: It did get me thinking about fanfic in a slightly more abstracted way, and about why this current debate over it really enrages me so much. I don't normally weigh in on wanky matters, so to get me to make a statement about it, it must really have got under my skin. Now I think I know why.

recessional: Criminal Minds: London, 1435

You can do something about street harassment (makes me want an iPhone)

blushingflower in kink_bingo:

Hi! The kink_bingo mods asked me to write an essay as part of the lead-up to the next round. You'll be seeing several more pieces in the coming days.

I told the mods I'd write about my own kink practice and how that relates to my interaction with kink fic. Which is of course a lot easier to say than to do.

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moar links

2010-05-12T06:00:21Z

( 20 links )

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link roundup for Sunday

2010-05-03T03:16:19Z

( today's links )

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zzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

2010-04-30T01:54:44Z

I took some nyquil a few hours ago because I think I have a cold. It has helped with the epic sneezefest, but now I feel really fuzzy. Apparently, it takes a full dose of nyquil to make me feel like I do at three in the morning (see icon); if I take just one gelcap, I can pretty much function normally.

Daily Song (right-click): The Distillers - Drain the Blood
I have been listening to this a lot lately.

( Here are the links I've collected so far. )

Now I sleep.

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long-ass post is long

2010-04-24T03:40:20Z

Took my final for Soviet Secret Police today. I think I did well - there was one "identify this document excerpt" that I swear I had never seen before, but it was a small part of the test.

I foresee using this icon a lot while I'm in New Orleans this summer, and I need to upload one of the "emphasizin ur POC" icons as well.

I have missed my one-year anniversary on Dreamwidth. But it was because I had papers to write, so I will just commemorate it now.

( links galore )

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I had a productive Sunday. Watched four movies.

2010-04-14T02:57:30Z

I say "productive" because they were all for class.

The best of the films was Das Leben der Anderen/The Lives of Others.

eruthros is awesome.^{[citation needed]}

pne's Dreamwidth barcode generator

And now to bed. I have to get up for work tomorrow. At least they can pay me now! :D

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Come say hi! I will be handling tickets!

2010-03-27T18:43:45Z

Follow ~~Friday~~ Saturday: anagrams. Also check out rydra_wong's Follow Friday: Steampunk of Colour Special Edition. Latest Things tagged 'followfriday'

In dww_styles, foxfirefey sums up the recently-added styles and themes.

yvi and commenters are pondering ways for users to support Dreamwidth financially and encourage developers to work on specific bugs, at the same time.

I saw Dr. Feelgood last night, and it was awesome. Boston-area people should come! $15, Cambridge YMCA in Central Square. Doors at 7:30 and show at 8:00.

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links, and stuff to do this weekend

2010-03-22T17:14:18Z

• Yeah, I guess crawfish do look kind of freaky if you haven't seen them before.

• ladiesbigbang, "a woman-centric multimedia big bang challenge that welcomes artists, fiction/meta writers, vidders, podficcers, fanmixers, picspammers and graphics folks."

• dw_community_promo has a Community Promotion Free-for-all where you can promote any awesome community, whether or not you're a maintainer (or even a member).

• cesare gives a detailed explanation of how to crosspost, including how to set up footers.

• foxfirefey in dreamwidth_meta: How to be a filthy seditious Dreamwidth supporter. Also, from the Wiki, how to find content on Dreamwidth.

• Big Moves Boston has a show this weekend! Dr. Feelgood (How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Love My Body) is Friday, March 26th and Saturday, March 27th at the Cambridge YMCA theater. Tickets are $12 ($15 at the door), doors 7:30 and show at 8. On the 27th, there's also a performance of Wide Load at 4. I'll be going to all these performances, and you guys should come with me!

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paper names that will wash away / in a heavy rain

2010-03-20T02:48:42Z

Follow Friday: followfriday | latest FF posts
duesouth rarelitfic fuckingdocs 100women
getting_started is a great place for people new to Dreamwidth to get answers to technical questions.
factfinding
napowrimo/National Poetry Writing Month is April.

Dreamwidth has been accepted as a mentoring organization for Google Summer of Code!!!

petra: Only one word for yes (White Collar, awesome smut written for kink_bingo, OT3)

Meme from marina: Ask me a question about one of my icons. I'll answer, either directly or with a drabble. (Probably not a drabble, as I don't have many fannish icons and don't really write fic, either.)

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sofiaviolet @ 2010-03-04T19:49:00

2010-03-05T01:27:30Z

via charmian and the_shoshanna: LJ has been hacking your affiliate links. For at least a month, it seems.

Probably everyone reading this who cares already knows, but. Bob is no longer a member of My Chemical Romance. ;_; My mother cried when I told her, you guys, because she is One Of Us without the fanfic. This shit is not okay.

Arma Angelus - The Grave End of the Shovel, in case anyone wants it.

Poetry rec: odditycollector's the value of daughters

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meme time

2010-03-04T00:43:01Z

You're on my Friends List. I want to know 35 things about you. I don't care if we never talk, or if we already know everything about each other (or think we do). Short answers or long, whatever you want to say (or not) is cool. Copy from here and then repost in a comment. Then repost the empty questions on your journal. You know. If you want to.

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Fandom Appreciation Challenge 2010, Day 1: Rec 3 challenge stories or fanworks in your journal.

lordessrenegade: The More You Fight Them (Umbrella Academy, gen, SFW)

therienne: Yin (White Collar, gen, SFW) and Yang (Leverage, gen, SFW)

frostfire_17: Listening to Hear Where You Are (Star Trek reboot, Kirk/Spock/Uhura, porntastic)

venculus: torque to thrust (SGA, Rodney-centric, porn)

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I have stopped braining myself on the ceiling!! New problem: bed is too far from alarm clock. Suspect it is time for fun with extension cords.

Room fix-ups continue. I have made a nice detailed to-do list, and I'm going to try and knock a sub-item or two out before dinner.

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rec and request for help

2009-12-16T22:26:24Z

sl1 k2tog psso by carleton97 (MCR, Bob/Frank/Jamia, ~9k)

You guys. Bob owns a yarn shop. Eeeee! (Basically, this fic and Buy Handmade by jjtaylor are the fics of my crafty fangirl soul. Buy Handmade sustained me through "I'm going to learn to make SOMETHING, dammit" - which turned out to be jewelry - and sl1 k2tog psso is going to sustain me through "I'm going to learn to knit, dammit.")

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Anyone got recs for a yarn shop in or near Boston? T-accessible is preferred, although Ellie has a car and can sometimes be bribed or badgered into driving me around.

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sofiaviolet @ 2009-12-03T21:37:00

2009-12-04T02:46:07Z

Best of 2009

December 3rd: article

I'm pretty tempted to do a fic recs post or something, but poor planning on my part means that's not happening. Similarly, you don't get actual specific articles, just blog recs. Three, since it's the 3rd.

I've been really loving geekfeminism_feed, which I have been reading since its inception, pretty much. I've also been reading thecurvature_feed for a while now, and tiger_beatdown_feed recently.

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fic rec!

2009-09-12T16:14:23Z

Hold on, lemme find a Patrick icon. There we go.

A bit late, but it's been a superbusy week for me. No time for posting.

Document by azurejay. FTM!Patrick Stump, you guys. ♥_♥

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My notebook is falling apart, you guys. :(

2009-06-17T02:38:18Z

I mean, I've been carrying it around since last March. It's a 5-subject composition book, and I tend to write pretty small. Lots of pages. Lots of words. It survived my MCR trip last May (without getting barfed on, which is more than I can say for my pants), and I've brought it with me almost everywhere.

The front cover is starting to tear away from the binding, and the entire cover/binding is separating from the pages. I need to repair it somehow. I think the answer is... duct tape. It usually works. Or I can ask at work, since someone there has probably done a wee bit of conservation on something.

One of the reasons I love writing in notebooks is that I can ignore my inner editor. I have to keep going - damn the plot holes and the continuity fail - or else pick a different scene to start writing. I do more writing on my computer, but sometimes I just need a notebook. If I'm feeling distractable, especially.

Of course, I look for all sorts of ways to make myself write. Unfortunately, I can't participate in kink_bingo because I don't write fanfic, but I am going to use their list as a way of prompting myself. Writing a random sex scene is a good way to get in my daily words, and sometimes it's helpful with regards to characterization.

bexless: Size Queen. Femmeslash om nom nom. Written for kink_bingo.

If you post cool content but you didn't have me friended on LJ, I set up a feed on DW (since I was only seeing your public posts anyway) and defriended you on LJ. I'm trying to centralize myself on Dreamwidth as much as possible. I won't abandon my LJ-based friends, but if I was just a follower, then whatever.

Someone is setting off fireworks, and has been every night since Saturday. It's annoying and it really upsets my upstairs neighbor's dog. >:(

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sofiaviolet @ 2009-06-15T19:33:00

2009-06-16T00:17:51Z

• azurelunatic has a good summary of the coverage of the situation in Iran, if you want to get informed and/or involved.

•sinsense: Thing-Thing, written for Bandom Big Bang.

You guys, why wasn't my high school experience like that, except with lesbians? (And maybe a little less awkwardness.)

•snakevsladder: play and record, held down together, also written for BBB.

My high school experience was never about getting drunk at parties or waiting for the bus, but that stuff all feels familiar and comforting and it makes a good backdrop for the Pete/Mikey and everything.

My boss and I were bitching about coding today and now she knows I have an account here. Hopefully she doesn't find it, doesn't care, or is, IDK, secretly in bandom or something. All my posts about work are locked anyway.

I am still all sunburned from Pride. Sunblock fail, whoopsies. I would be so much less annoyed if I could just peel and go back to being all pale, but I'm going to be kind of tan for a while.

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I appreciate direct flights.

2009-06-12T23:23:09Z

Safely arrived in Boston. I haven't unpacked yet but I have opened all my mail, at least. I also need to deposit some checks, mail my mom the bath bombs I added to my own order from Lush, and leave feedback for some stuff I bought on ebay.

My left ear isn't properly depressurized, but it's a lot better than it could be considering I think I caught Dad's cold right before I left.

The flight was really delayed, you guys. :( But that did give me a chance to pull up all the parts of jezrana's BBB, A World So Small, featuring sickly Frank and reclusive Gerard in the historical-type setting she does so well.

Anyone who caught my tweet about dinner last night - we had Japanese food because Ellie made a decision for us. (My initial idea was Indian, but Dad doesn't like one of the spices.) We ordered two entrees for four people and it was exactly enough food.

I got tickets to see Blink-182, but I'm going to need to find a ride. (Also Green Day, but I can get there on the T.)

List of things I need to buy soon: table, halogen worklight, easel, canvas dropcloth. I think that's it. Mom gave each of us a little extra money, and our family friend Liz gave us some, too. That should be more than enough to cover everything I need.

Ellie is going to help Jordan run an errand, and then they might get dinner. And I might be invited. IDK. Will keep my phone handy.

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Oh dear.

2009-06-11T01:18:51Z

I bought 30 blank CDs to give my mom some new music, and I have used. Them. All. And I still have stuff I need to burn. *facepalm*

I'm doing well with my writing, at least. And we've been having some good family times, even though Dad has had a fair bit of work. I have a new pair of glasses, and I got new lenses in my old frames.

I think we're going to Rock n Bowl tonight. :D

Links built up over the past few days...

From my friends, friends of friends, and acquaintances:

• fleurdeliser knows we need to keep fighting. The post is also available on LJ.
• thelemic has a few things to say about who he is.
• Is your child someone you raise, or something you own?
• Gender and graduation.

From the wider web:

• A living testament to Dr. Tiller's legacy and the people who continue to provide abortion services.
• Domestic terrorism - hate speech and hate crimes.
• Pink sheep of the family. I'd like to thank my parents for accepting me and my sister - especially Ellie.
• One of the many reasons I'm grateful for my excellent experiences in my major-specific writing courses - I had to do this type of research for one such course, and chose to for the other.
• On rape, fear, and "helpful advice."

Fic recs:

• shoemaster: Rising With the Heat, Frank/Gerard superhero porn. Also available on LJ.
• tuesdaysgone: Purgatorio, Frank/Gerard, written for Bandom Big Bang. "While on leave from the police force, Detective Frank Iero occupies himself with three things: drinking, brawling, and being alone. But when a series of brutal murders calls him back to active duty, he must find a killer while confronting people from his past, including estranged best friend turned businessman Mikey Way, and deal with his unwilling attraction to Mikey's enigmatic older brother Gerard."
• jjtaylor: Gerard Way's (Vampire) Detective Agency, written for Bandom Big Bang. "Pete, in Decaydance Mansion, with a yarrow stake. Frank and Gerard, in the greenhouse, with a plant of questionable origin. Bob, everywhere you look, with a gang of assassins for justice. Vampires, valets, pamphlets, haunted furniture, dub-thrall, disembodied voices, zombie couriers, and sinister rituals."

Also, bandombigbang_feed to keep up with BBB posting if you're reading primarily on Dreamwidth.

Also also, does anyone have a good Trans 101 to recommend? Like, really entry-level stuff, defining terms, etc.

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