"These things happen"? Way to be completely unprofessional. :( I'm sorry.
As for being a survivor versus a victim: I figure it's best for people to figure out how they need to think of themselves.
And I make such a big deal about telling people, and I do tell - well, the whole internet, really - because it means I can't pretend it never happened. I stayed in that relationship for another year because I couldn't leave, and the only way I could function was to retcon my rape away.
I don't have any advice for coping with PTSD, unfortunately. If you think you can work with a (non-sucky, of course) professional, then that's a possibility. Also support groups, whether in-person or online. Although I find that simply recognizing what you're experiencing can be a very helpful step, if only because knowing that something is happening allows you to take action for your own benefit.
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As for being a survivor versus a victim: I figure it's best for people to figure out how they need to think of themselves.
And I make such a big deal about telling people, and I do tell - well, the whole internet, really - because it means I can't pretend it never happened. I stayed in that relationship for another year because I couldn't leave, and the only way I could function was to retcon my rape away.
I don't have any advice for coping with PTSD, unfortunately. If you think you can work with a (non-sucky, of course) professional, then that's a possibility. Also support groups, whether in-person or online. Although I find that simply recognizing what you're experiencing can be a very helpful step, if only because knowing that something is happening allows you to take action for your own benefit.