I know I used to have the problem where I couldn't possibly actually read all the journals I was subscribed to and I felt bad because people who were actually my friends were upset that I'd missed things.
(At one point in time, I would check specific journals of non-LW friends, and then read the friends list of LW OOC, because like 75% of the people I actually cared about were on it.)
I tend to have a lot of one-way connections in both directions, though--there are people who read me, even though I broadcast a lot less than I used to, who are interested in my thoughts about shows, but not particularly in my celiac disease or my batshite downstairs neighbour or my job searches, and there are people I read, because they are authors I admire. (This was one of the things they used to make fun of me for on FW--the idea that I must be a loser because not everyone friends me back, when in fact I had friended a lot of broadcasters on LJ. I am grateful that Nnedi Okorafor friended me back, but unsurprised that Pat Cadigan and Elizabeth Bear haven't; it doesn't make me feel like a loser that someone I friended because I basically am their fangirl doesn't have time to care about all their fans?)
Anyhow. Yeah.
I want to broadcast again, now that people on the internet seem to be growing up a little and trolling is treated more as violent behaviour and less as free speech--I particularly liked what Liss said on Shakesville, which I read, about how trolls exhibit the attitudes of the rape culture, by not respecting people's boundaries and complaining when they're not allowed in and acting like you defending your own boundaries is a violation of THEIR rights. But I'm not sure I'm ready yet.
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(At one point in time, I would check specific journals of non-LW friends, and then read the friends list of LW OOC, because like 75% of the people I actually cared about were on it.)
I tend to have a lot of one-way connections in both directions, though--there are people who read me, even though I broadcast a lot less than I used to, who are interested in my thoughts about shows, but not particularly in my celiac disease or my batshite downstairs neighbour or my job searches, and there are people I read, because they are authors I admire. (This was one of the things they used to make fun of me for on FW--the idea that I must be a loser because not everyone friends me back, when in fact I had friended a lot of broadcasters on LJ. I am grateful that Nnedi Okorafor friended me back, but unsurprised that Pat Cadigan and Elizabeth Bear haven't; it doesn't make me feel like a loser that someone I friended because I basically am their fangirl doesn't have time to care about all their fans?)
Anyhow. Yeah.
I want to broadcast again, now that people on the internet seem to be growing up a little and trolling is treated more as violent behaviour and less as free speech--I particularly liked what Liss said on Shakesville, which I read, about how trolls exhibit the attitudes of the rape culture, by not respecting people's boundaries and complaining when they're not allowed in and acting like you defending your own boundaries is a violation of THEIR rights. But I'm not sure I'm ready yet.