I don't think you're so much a lazy femme as a smart one. Heels (especially high ones) are really really bad for you, and I don't think people who don't find them comfortable SHOULD wear them. I mean, my stepmother, occultebelta and lindensphinx are comfortable in them, but I can look at those three women and see how given their similar body types they're okay in them, but I have bad ankles and knees and weigh more than I look and I wobble. So I only wear low heels and flats, and you can get shoes of this nature that are totally cute and feminine.
I also don't wear makeup as often as I used to (and I never wore it often) because I find that when I wear makeup I look my age, which is horrifying as most people wear it to look younger. I look younger without it because too much of it is damaging to the skin, so I don't look as old as people who wear it constantly.
Until I can actually afford a professional makeup consultation to find out how to wear makeup in a way that will make me look 28-30 as I normally do instead of 46, I'm not going to bother much. (Cue angry feminists telling me I should be proud I'm 46. I actually am proud I've lived this long, and I understand that the way people treat me when they can tell I'm 46 by looking is a social problem, but since I can avoid having to deal with that, I'm going to. Also 99% of men my own age annoy me because they don't understand about rape culture and enthusiastic consent and are set in their ways and resistant to being trained not to tease or generally annoy me and not to touch me or encroach on my space without my enthusiastic consent. I like it that I generally attract men who are young enough not to say horrible things about their ex-wives all the time and whose heads are still somewhat retractable from their anuses.)
IDK. I am never going to like my body hair and not shave because I have really dark hair and really light skin. I think a lot of people who are uniformly fair or dark look fine if they don't shave, but black hair + white skin? Is like, obvious from 20 feet away, and I don't want an obvious mustache because I am femme, not butch.
I also like my nails short.
So. I wear really cute, often impractical, designer flats and boots and low heels, and skirts and dresses, and not much makeup, and anyone who says I am not particularly femme because I don't wear stilettos and have claws and warpaint can go fuck themselves :)
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I also don't wear makeup as often as I used to (and I never wore it often) because I find that when I wear makeup I look my age, which is horrifying as most people wear it to look younger. I look younger without it because too much of it is damaging to the skin, so I don't look as old as people who wear it constantly.
Until I can actually afford a professional makeup consultation to find out how to wear makeup in a way that will make me look 28-30 as I normally do instead of 46, I'm not going to bother much. (Cue angry feminists telling me I should be proud I'm 46. I actually am proud I've lived this long, and I understand that the way people treat me when they can tell I'm 46 by looking is a social problem, but since I can avoid having to deal with that, I'm going to. Also 99% of men my own age annoy me because they don't understand about rape culture and enthusiastic consent and are set in their ways and resistant to being trained not to tease or generally annoy me and not to touch me or encroach on my space without my enthusiastic consent. I like it that I generally attract men who are young enough not to say horrible things about their ex-wives all the time and whose heads are still somewhat retractable from their anuses.)
IDK. I am never going to like my body hair and not shave because I have really dark hair and really light skin. I think a lot of people who are uniformly fair or dark look fine if they don't shave, but black hair + white skin? Is like, obvious from 20 feet away, and I don't want an obvious mustache because I am femme, not butch.
I also like my nails short.
So. I wear really cute, often impractical, designer flats and boots and low heels, and skirts and dresses, and not much makeup, and anyone who says I am not particularly femme because I don't wear stilettos and have claws and warpaint can go fuck themselves :)