*nods* This is really interesting. For myself, whenever I've worn dresses or even skirts, it's been "dressing up" in my mind--it's a costume. I don't know how to do make up or walk in heels, and if I could just wear jeans and sneakers for the rest of my life, I'd be happy. But I don't think I connect with either the butch or the femme side of that particular divide, and in fact I don't even know if that's necessarily a binary/continuum.

Anyway, disjointed! Like you say! But these are the thoughts I had.